Zicoflex So, you want
to get
intimate
with your
honey.
Guess it’s
time to strip
down and
play with
each other’s
naughty
bits. WRONG!
Okay, so sex
is intimate
(at least
great sex
with
someone
you like is
intimate),
but believe it
or not, there
are other
things to do
that can
build as
strong of a
connection
with your
partner.
They make
you feel
even closer,
and if you do
them right,
they’ll
probably
lead to even
better sex.
Don’t be
scared of
deeper
intimacy
than just
doing the
horizontal
(or vertical, if
you’re up for
a change)
tango. Try
some of
these today
and see just
how
incredible
they make
you feel.
SPEND SOME
TIME
CUDDLING.
Skip the sex
and go
straight to
cuddling. Put
on some
background
noise like a
movie
you’ve both
seen a
hundred
times or
some music.
Just wrap
yourselves
up in each
other and
listen to the
gentle
rhythm of
his heart
beat and
breathing.
It’s sweet
and more
intimate
than you
might think.
TALK ABOUT
WHAT’S
REALLY
IMPORTANT.
You say
you’re fine,
he grunts
that his day
was good
too. You
might share
some
meaningless
celebrity
gossip and
he’ll share
how proud
he was of
some bodily
gas he
excreted
earlier.
That’s not
enough.
Have a
deeper
conversation.
You don’t
have to do it
everyday,
but talk
about hopes,
fears,
dreams and
even about
the
relationship
itself.
OFFER TO
HELP YOUR
PARTNER
WITH
SOMETHING.
Nothing is
quite as
sexy as a
man that’s
not afraid to
help with the
dishes or
any other
chores for
that matter.
Helping your
partner with
some
random task
gives you
the two of
you extra
time
together
and shows
you care. It’s
amazing how
close you
feel when
you wash
and he dries.
PLAY TRUTH
OR DARE.
Add a bit of
risk into the
equation
with some
old school
Truth or
Dare. I know
it might
sound
childish, but
why should
couples have
to be mature
24/7? Sit
down in the
middle of the
living room
floor and
have fun.
You’ll be
laughing and
opening up
in no time. If
you play it
right, one
intimate
thing might
just lead into
another.
TRY
SOMETHING
NEW
TOGETHER.
Trying
something
new
together
makes both
of you more
vulnerable.
Neither one
of you know
what to
expect. This
means you
share the
entire
experience
for the first
time
together.
It’s simple,
but deeply
intimate.
FOCUS ON
JUST MAKING
OUT.
Somewhere
along the
way, we’ve
lost sight of
the joy of
simply
making out.
Keep the
clothes on
and enjoy
the thrill of
kissing
without
expecting
anything
else. Going
straight to
the main
course is so
boring. Try
something
more
innocent and
see how
connected
you truly
feel.
SLEEP
TOGETHER.
No, I don’t
mean sex.
I’m talking
about
literally
sleeping
together.
Curl up with
each other
and drift off.
Trusting
each other
enough to
simply sleep
together is
incredibly
intimate. It’s
also
strangely
romantic.
SHARE YOUR
FANTASIES.
I didn’t say
other forms
of intimacy
had to
exclude sex
completely.
How often
have you
wanted to
role play?
What about
trying a little
bondage? My
guess is you
were too shy
to bring it up.
Sit down and
share your
fantasies.
You don’t
have to do
them right
this second,
but it takes
courage to
open up and
say what
you’d love to
try one day.
GIVE EACH
OTHER A
MASSAGE.
Skip the
professionals
and give
each other
massages
instead. One
of the
sexiest
things in the
world to me
is a guy who
knows how
to rub all the
tension out
of my neck
and back.
It’s perfectly
fine to get
naked. Just
don’t have
any
expectations
outside of
an intimate,
relaxing
massage.
DANCE TO
YOUR
FAVORITE
SONGS.
Want to see
each other
without the
daily stress
and just
have fun?
Dance to
your
favorite
songs. Sit
down
together,
make a
playlist and
dance like no
one’s
watching.
You’ll laugh,
forget about
being self-
conscious
and open up
to each
other in a
way you’ve
probably
never done
before.
PLAY GAMES.
First things
first. Don’t
do this if
either one of
you is overly
competitive.
If winning
isn’t the only
thing that
matters to
you, have a
game night.
There are
plenty of
two player
board and
card games
out there.
Skip the
video games
for this one.
Other games
are more
intimate and
encourage
those
deeper
conversations.
SHARE AN
EMBARRASSING
SECRET.
I know it’s
terrifying to
think of him
knowing
about
getting gum
stuck in your
hair and
going
through your
senior year
with a
massive
hunk of hair
missing. Who
cares?
Laughing
together is
intimate. Go
ahead and
share your
embarrassing
secrets. He’ll
have plenty
of his own.
SHARE EACH
OTHER’S
FAVORITE
HOBBY.
We’ve all
dreamed of
finding the
right person
who’ll love all
of our
hobbies. It’s
not going to
happen, but
there’s
something
intimate
about being
willing to try
each other’s
hobbies.
Each of you
should pick a
hobby you’d
like to try of
the other’s.
Even if you
don’t like it,
you’ll
understand
it better.
The smile
you see on
your honey’s
face when
you offer to
at least try
will melt your
insides.
Intimacy
happens
outside the
bedroom
too. Give
these a try
and you’ll
see exactly
what I mean.